Sunday, January 17, 2016

She Tells Her Grandma That She’s Just Been Cheated On So Grandma Tells Her To Do This

This is a good lesson for all of us, no matter what stage of life you’re in. You’ll see what I mean.

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her – her husband had cheated on her and she was devastated. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.


Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.


In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.


Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, ‘Tell me what you see.’

‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied.


Her grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The grandmother then asked the granddaughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.





Finally, the grandmother asked the granddaughter to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, grandmother?’


Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.


“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?


Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?


Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?


Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?


How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?


May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.


The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.


When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

May we all be like the COFFEE.


Share this with your friends and family today.


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  2. I'd rather soften at times and harden at times than lose my essence to the adversary.

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  3. I always try to elevate myself especially when I've been through or going through a rough time. Always try to keep my chin up and a smile on my face. Love this#coffeebean#

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  5. In the case of cheating, I'm the egg. I would never trust someone who cheated once. I'd want to find someone who can make the coffee with me!

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  6. Does that mean that the grandma was telling her to stick it out in the marriage with a cheating husband, and try to "change him"??? That's terrible advice.

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    1. No, the grandma was asking how she was going to let the situation mold her. Was it going to make her give up and rain useless, harden her heart to future relationships or show her to regroup and improve her situation.

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    2. Lol i think she was saying stay, catch him and collect... "Elevation" at its finest..

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    3. Lol i think she was saying stay, catch him and collect... "Elevation" at its finest..

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  7. "and then she left his sorry butt and lived happily ever after." The End.

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  8. When something is broken and has great value to it you fix it together!

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  9. It takes two people willing and wanting to save the marriage otherwise you have one person without boundaries and one person trespassing the others boundaries. Guard your heart and if he continues to cheat kick him out. The bible states you do not have to stay married to a sexually immoral husband. What good is it to say you've been married for 28 years if the whole time he's been a cheat? Leave sooner than later and find a trustworthy man.

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    1. I totally agree my husband and I worked out his infidelity and have a stronger marriage for it.

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  10. It means....who do you become? The coffee beans add and enrich to their surroundings, they create their surroundings into something wonderful to be enjoyed by others. They do not let their trials boil them, when boiled they enrich their world truly drinkable, enjoyable, adding an aroma so lively and inviting to the worlds senses.

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  11. The result of what we become in life in entirely up to our personal endurance.

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  12. Interesting advice that could only come from one who has experienced her share of adversity. I don't purport to know the right answer in this dilemma but I would be inclined to listen to what an older woman had to say. Often, cheating is just the result of a broken marriage. Before you leave, you should find out why it happened that way.

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  13. I believe grandma let her figure out what she will do, how she will respond to this trial that has presented itself in their marriage. The older woman gave her something to think about. Married couple's face many adversities, you don't just end a marriage because your spouse isn't perfect. Infidelity is a serious breach of the covenant, but consider the kids, the home, the families involved, all the good the spouse has done, and so much more. Consider counseling. Main thing, respond to the problem, don't react..... Smart Grandma

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  14. I believe grandma let her figure out what she will do, how she will respond to this trial that has presented itself in their marriage. The older woman gave her something to think about. Married couple's face many adversities, you don't just end a marriage because your spouse isn't perfect. Infidelity is a serious breach of the covenant, but consider the kids, the home, the families involved, all the good the spouse has done, and so much more. Consider counseling. Main thing, respond to the problem, don't react..... Smart Grandma

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  15. Nobody can and will ever walk exactly in someone else's shoes... Only the person can make the decision or judgement on what to do and funnily enough the more people you talk to or hear from the more confusing it can become. We are all giving advice from our own life point of view or experience which may not be beneficial to someone else. But !!! the grandma did give good advice remaining neutral but giving her some tools she can use to get through it not matter what the outcome. As Dr Wayne Dyer says 'We are a product of every decision we make', So choose wisely...

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